7 Types Of Guys Women Can’t Resist

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Have you ever wondered why some guys have all the luck when it comes to women? It’s no secret that certain archetypal males have been proven over and over to be irresistible to women — and it’s not simply because of their  good looks or a well-defined six pack.

The truth is that women tend to be attracted to certain personality traits and so, naturally, they flock to the men who possess them.

Below are seven of these “ideal types” of guys that women are drawn to, and an explanation as to why these guys are so appealing. But don’t freak out or permanently alter your personality if you don’t fit into any of these categories exactly — women will see right through that.

Ideally, you should exude some traits from each of these different categories; in fact, you probably already do. With a quick perusal of the list below, you should be in much better shape to understand what women are looking for, and most importantly, to make sure that you fit the bill.

1. The Romantic Guy

He believes in classic romance. He is constantly bringing her flowers and chocolate and lighting candles during dinner. He calls her often to let her know he is thinking about her and looks into her eyes and tells her how he feels.

Why he is so irresistible: A woman loves to feel appreciated, and the romantic guy makes this happen. He uses romantic gestures to show her he is thinking about her. As an added bonus, she feels free to reciprocate and act on her own romantic tendencies.

2. The Confident Guy

He is totally secure and sure of himself. He is assertive in public and gives off an aura of power and control (within reason of course, as the “cocky guy” is not on this list). In a relationship, he doesn’t get jealous of other men; he doesn’t feel threatened by his girlfriend’s male friends or coworkers.

Why he is so irresistible: Women are attracted to confident men. Consider this: If you think you are great, she will probably be influenced to think the same. The confident man doesn’t seek approval from women, and this makes them want him even more.

3. The Artistic Guy

The artistic guy is spontaneous and lives for the moment. Often, he will use his creativity to woo her, such as with a song he has written about her or a painting he has made for her.

Why he is so irresistible: Every woman wants to feel unique and special. There is no better way to make her feel this way than to use her as your muse or your source of inspiration. She is intrigued by the artistic guy’s creative mind and especially by the way he incorporates her into his art.

4. The Foreign Guy

He comes from a faraway exotic country; he might have a cute accent or a unique way of seeing the world. His social customs and everyday behavior can be a little quirky, but he always manages to come off as uniquely charming. Note that you don’t have to actually be foreign to fit into this category. If you are well-traveled or speak many languages, you might be able to pull off the charm as well as any sweet-talking foreigner.

Why he is so irresistible: Charisma, charisma and charisma. There’s not much more I can say about this one; it’s just that mysterious je ne sais quoi that is so alluring. Women often choose this kind of guy if they are curious about the world, but most of the appeal comes down to a fascination with dating someone from another culture.

5. The Free Spirit Guy (aka the Bad Boy)

The free spirit guy goes where the wind takes him — and the wind usually takes him on some kind of wacky adventure. He might ride a motorcycle, or he might skip work to take her on a last-minute road trip, but this guy doesn’t worry too much about the consequences; he just sees where his own devices take him.

Why he is so irresistible: Every woman wants a bit of a rebel (within reason, of course). She loves his carefree attitude and hopes that it will rub off on her too. The bad boy spirit adds an element of youthfulness to the relationship and she loves to try taming him — although she knows she’ll never actually succeed.

6. The Intelligent/Witty Guy

He instigates conversations that are intellectually stimulating and listens to what she has to say in response. He makes her laugh with his clever sense of humor and has an uncanny ability to make politics interesting. He can shoot the breeze with her for hours and it will never get boring.

Why he is so irresistible: As time goes on, your hairline may recede and your buff body may soften, but if you can keep her interested, you’ve won half the battle. An intellectual connection is a big part of what sustains a relationship and if you can show her that you’ve got that, she’ll be hooked pretty quickly.

7. The Considerate Guy

He holds open her car door and pulls out her chair. He foots the bill for dinner and makes sure to offer her dessert. He always asks her out with reasonable notice and picks her up at her door. He is generally sensitive to how she is feeling and when she is ready to go home.

Why he is so irresistible: Surprised? You probably think that nice, considerate guys never get the woman, but consider this: Once a woman has gone through her share of the bad guy, the rude guy and the not-calling-her-back guy, she will likely reevaluate her priorities. It takes a bit of maturity on her part to realize this, but eventually most girls come around and realize that they want a guy who will treat them well in the long run.

a word of caution

Don’t take any of these character types to the extreme or try to be someone you’re not — it will be way too obvious.

The key to success here is to keep in mind why women like the character traits outlined above and what kind of gestures they appreciate. Then, mix them up and see which of these traits and gestures you are most comfortable with. With just a little bit of effort, you’ll be able to find more than a few irresistible qualities within yourself — and accordingly, she’ll be easily wooed by your newfound individuality.

Now isn’t that worth your time?

Why Women Love Gay Men

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In recent years, movies and television shows geared toward women have idealized the gay male friend. Shows like Sex and the City, for example, seem to suggest that no woman’s circle of friends is complete without at least one good gay friend. Maybe we’re reading a bit too much into this, but we’re pretty sure this fictional phenomenon has at least some roots in reality. In our experience, women love gay men.

However, according to the big and small screens, it seems there’s a particular kind of gay man with which most women are enamored by: They love the stylish, sarcastic and supportive guy; the gay man who looks good, listens to her and is loyal to a fault. Upon examination, it’s not hard to figure out why women love gay men who fit this criteria.

So, it stands to reason that by examining what women love about gay men, we heterosexual guys might be able to learn a few things.
Men’s clothes
Many, if not most, gay men have a great sense of fashion and style. For whatever reason, it seems gay men know how to dress, and they often put us heterosexual guys to shame with their impeccable taste in clothes and high fashion IQ. This is just one of the many reasons why women love gay men.

So, how can you tell if you have style or not? Ask yourself this: Do you ever walk into a crowded room and feel like the best-dressed guy there? If your answer is “no, never” you may need to rethink your wardrobe. In fact, if women rarely compliment you on your appearance — say, less than once or twice a week — it’s probably time to restock your closet.
Physical fitness
Yes, it’s a bit of a stereotype, but you’ll probably concede that many of the gay men you know are serious about physical fitness, and that’s another reason why women love gay men. Of course, heterosexual women are big fans of the carefully sculpted male form. Gay or straight, women enjoy being in the presence of a well-built man.

However, it’s also the shared interest in working out and living a healthy lifestyle that women appreciate about their gay friends. In many instances, gay men simply take better care of themselves than we do, and our female companions would appreciate it if we followed suit. So take a cue from your athletically inclined gay friends, and hit the gym with your significant other, or join her when she goes for a run.

At least do a sit-up or two, tubby.

Sensitivity
A 2008 study published by the National Academy of Sciences revealed that gay men and straight women have similarly shaped brains: Both are symmetrical, whereas the straight male brain is asymmetrical; it is slightly larger on the right side (the same shape as the gay female brain). So, it’s possible that gay men think and see the world in a way that women can relate to; that might be another reason why women love gay men.

The bottom line is that your girlfriend’s friends communicate with her, and her gay male friend is no exception. His willingness to sympathize and try to understand her is surely one of the reasons your girlfriend loves her gay friend. And it wouldn’t kill you to take a cue from that guy and think about her feelings a bit more often. Just because our brains are shaped differently doesn’t mean we can’t be a little more sensitive.
Faithfulness
Why do women love gay men? Because women don’t have to worry about their gay male friends leaving them for other women. Surely one of the things that women get out of a friendship with a gay man is male companionship without the fear of betrayal or abandonment.

So what can you do to demonstrate your faithfulness to a woman (besides, you know, not cheating on her)? Try keeping your wandering eye in check. For instance, when you’re out with your girlfriend and a pair of insanely hot twins walks by, don’t let your head spin around like a top.
Fun
We’re generalizing again here, but let it be said: Gay guys are just a good time. They’re funny, refreshingly frank about sex and they can dance. We recognize there must be some dull, socially awkward gay guys out there, but most of the gay guys we know are fun to hang out with, and that’s another reason why women love gay men.

The lesson for straight guys: Try to be less inhibited. Talk louder. Be bolder. Maybe even strut your stuff on the dance floor every now and then.
learn from the gays
While the qualities women appreciate in their gay male friends are in many cases different from those they appreciate in their straight male partners, some of these qualities overlap. Consequently, paying attention to the things women love about gay men can make you a more attractive mate.

How to Be Rich, Sexy, and Famous

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Ivanka Trump uses her guts, brains, and magnetic charm — not her last name — to get what she wants. And now she’s showing you ways to do the same. Ready for the ultimate apprenticeship?

You know her famous family, but you might not know how hard Ivanka Trump has worked to carve out her own success. At 26, she’s a graduate of the prestigious Wharton School of business and the vice president of acquisitions and development of the Trump Organization. She also just launched the Ivanka Trump fine jewelry collection. Needless to say, the girl has style…and she pulls it off with a brilliant set of life and work rules that allow her to be strong and knockout sexy at the same time. Put them to use and you can build your own luxe existence.

1. Work Your Sexiness 24/7
“When it comes to the workplace, there’s no such thing as feminine self-expression,” she says. Emitting sex appeal on the job makes you alluring — just be smart about it. “Serious cleavage is not appropriate, nor is flirting with potential partners,” she warns. Instead, keep your voice at a captivating low tone, and evoke sensuality by saying you are “passionate about a project” or have “intimate knowledge” of your industry.

2. Let Yourself Be Underestimated
“There are people who assume I’m daddy’s little girl or just a 26-year-old blond,” she says. But this fighter uses the underminers’ blind spots to her benefit. “If you misjudge someone, she’s more likely to get the better of you,” she says. It pays to play up your differences. “I’m strong yet I’ll exude feminine traits, like keeping the peace and managing people,” Ivanka says. Then the punches have more power.

3. Think Commanding, Not Demanding
“There’s something unappealing about someone our age being too authoritative,” she says. Don’t get her wrong: “I can’t be a sycophant, so I stake my ground politely and don’t sugarcoat things.” You actually get more power by deferring to higher-ups in public or backing up a colleague’s ideas. And when you disagree, a little diplomacy (“You make a great point, but I see it another way….”) builds a solid rep.

4. Learn to Read a Room
In addition to being respectful, always take the temperature of whom you’re dealing with. “Know your audience,” she advises. “People like aggressive styles or gentle styles or want to feel they’re your best friend.” By sizing up a situation with small talk — ask about their last vacation or how their family is doing — you sense whether they’re in buddy mode or need kid gloves.

5. Handle a Bitch the Right Way
Sometimes you’ll meet a heinous beast whose number-one goal is to make you squirm. “You have to rough some people around tactically so they respect you or get intimidated,” advises Ivanka. “I’ll make light of the fact that they’re an aggressive human being.” If you fight the bitch head on, you’ll lose; instead, defuse her by using humor and your power not to get ruffled, then move on.

6. Have a Secret Weapon for Negotiating
Competitors bank on an easy win with Ivanka because she’s young, but they get tripped up because she won’t let on that she’s done her homework. “Always allow the other person to throw out the first offer, because you often overcalculate things and want to spill information you’ve gathered to prove yourself,” she says. So when you’re negotiating a raise, let your boss say “Sorry, no money in the budget” before you spring the fact that you know a junior coworker makes more than you do. “Don’t ever show your hand until you really have to,” says Ivanka.

7. Don’t Be Afraid to Make an Ass of Yourself
“Some people in my industry are shocked by the brazenness of my requests, but they’re more shocked when the answer I get from the decision maker is okay,” Ivanka says. “You have to be willing to embarrass yourself by laying claim to something so egregious that you may get laughed at for it.” When you ask for something outrageous, like the nicest office, they may be so taken aback, they’ll relent on a lesser point you really want, such as your own private workspace.

8. Love What You Do
The Trump business may live and die by one bottom line, but the family abides by this one: “My best advice from my dad is ‘Love what you do,’” Ivanka says. “It’s as basic as that. You could be a genius, but if someone else in the room is less intelligent but wants it more, they have a leg up. The only way to succeed is to have more motivation than the next person.”

Why Being Ballsy Matters
Ivanka didn’t get where she is by waiting for daddy to drop plum projects in her lap. The Donald doesn’t like to travel, so she took charge of huge deals in Hawaii and Dubai. “If you think you can do a job that is a stretch but will test your confidence, let people know,” she advises. And use the element of surprise to catch the boss’s eye, like putting an unexpected idea memo on her desk. “So what if she says no?” Ivanka says. “She’s never going to not respect that you asked for something above your duties.”

8 Easy Ways to Survive the Workweek

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Monday through Friday need not be so dreary. By adding a few exciting activities to your routine, you won’t have to live for the weekends anymore.

Exercise in the A.M.
If you’re like us, hitting the gym at the crack of dawn sounds about as appealing as jumping into an icy lake in mid-February. But there are real benefits to squeezing in an early workout. You get it out of the way so it’s not hanging over your head, you feel more energized all day, and it frees up your evenings for plans with friends. Plus, exercise releases endorphins, which improve your mood.
Relish Your Mornings
Whether you make it to the gym or not, try getting up 15 minutes earlier than usual and having your coffee and breakfast at home while listening to music, reading the paper, or watching the news. When you start your morning in a calm and relaxed way, it sets the tone for the rest of the day.
Make Weekend Plans in Advance
Start scheduling your Saturday and Sunday activities on Monday. Spending the first few days of the week talking to friends about cool stuff to do on the weekend builds anticipation and makes the week fly by.
Send an E-Joke
Every once in a while, shoot your friends or a few select co-workers a funny (yet work appropriate) e-mail. Sharing a link to a piece of celeb gossip or a hilarious YouTube clip allows you to mentally check out for a couple of minutes a day.

Take an Actual Lunch Break
Eat with co-workers instead of scarfing down an energy bar and a bag of chips at your desk. It will give you an opportunity to recharge your batteries, you’ll enjoy a proper meal (so you won’t be tempted to hit the vending machine at 4 p.m.), and you’ll bond with colleagues.
Head Out on Wednesdays
Why save all the fun for Thursdays? Going out on Wednesday gives you something to look forward to on those dismal Mondays and Tuesdays. Hit a bar for happy hour or invite friends over, pop open a few bottles of wine, and order pizza.
Connect with Friends
Social networking sites can be addicting (ya think?) and can seriously interfere with your work. But sneaking a little time online can be a nice way to break up an endless afternoon and catch up with pals. Allot yourself 15 minutes a day to log on to Facebook and MySpace or any other site you like.
Start a Weekly Tradition
Whether it’s watching Gossip Girl with your friends or having Thursday date night with your guy, delegating one evening a week to a specific activity will ensure that you always have something to look forward to. People are less likely to cancel on a standing event, so you’ll never be left with nothing to do.

Source: Gini Graham Scott, PhD, career seminar and workshop leader and author of Enjoy! 101 Little Ways to Add Fun to Your Work Every Day.

Emmy Winners 2009

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Emmy Winners 2009

Toni Collette

Toni Collette The 2009 Emmy winners have been announced.

The likes of Toni Collette, Glenn Close and Jessica Lange are among the winning ladies, while Michael J Fox, Justin Timberlake and Alec Baldwin are winners in the actor categories.

Friends star Jennifer Aniston didn’t quite cut the mustard as best guest actress in a comedy series for 30 Rock, losing out to Tina Fey’s Saturday Night Live stint instead.

Better luck next time, Jen.

Here’s a full list of winners and nominees:

Outstanding Lead Actor In A Comedy Series:
WINNER:
30 Rock – Alec Baldwin
NOMINEES:
The Big Bang Theory – Jim Parsons
Flight Of The Conchords – Jemaine Clement
Monk – Tony Shalhoub
The Office – Steve Carell
Two And A Half Men – Charlie Sheen

Outstanding Lead Actor In A Drama Series:
WINNER:
Breaking Bad – Bryan Cranston
NOMINEES:
Dexter – Michael C Hall
House – Hugh Laurie
In Treatment – Gabriel Byrne
Mad Men – Jon Hamm
The Mentalist – Simon Baker

Outstanding Lead Actor In A Miniseries Or A Movie:
WINNER:
Into The Storm – Brendan Gleeson
NOMINEES:
Cyrano de Bergerac – Kevin Kline
King Lear (Great Performances) – Sir Ian McKellen

Glenn Close

Glenn Close with her Emmy award
Taking Chance – Kevin Bacon
24: Redemption – Kiefer Sutherland
Wallander: One Step Behind – Kenneth Branagh

Outstanding Lead Actress In A Comedy Series:
WINNER:
United States Of Tara – Toni Collette
NOMINEES:
The New Adventures Of Old Christine – Julia Louise-Dreyfus
Samantha Who? – Christina Applegate
The Sarah Silverman Program – Sarah Silverman
30 Rock – Tina Fey
Weeds – Mary-Louise Parker

Outstanding Lead Actress In A Drama Series:
WINNER:
Damages – Glenn Close
NOMINEES:
Brothers & Sisters – Sally Field
The Closer – Kyra Sedgwick
Law & Order: Special Victims Unit – Mariska Hargitay
Mad Men – Elisabeth Moss
Saving Grace – Holly Hunter

Outstanding Lead Actress In A Miniseries Or A Movie:
WINNER:
Grey Gardens – Jessica Lange
NOMINEES:
Accidental Friendship – Chandra Wilson
Coco Chanel – Shirley MacLaine
Grey Gardens – Drew Barrymore
Prayers For Bobby – Sigourney Weaver

Jon Cryer

Jon Cryer – Outstanding supporting actor in a comedy series

Outstanding Supporting Actor In A Comedy Series:
WINNER:
Two And A Half Men – Jon Cryer
NOMINEES:
Entourage – Kevin Dillon
How I Met Your Mother – Neil Patrick Harris
The Office – Rainn Wilson
30 Rock – Tracy Morgan
30 Rock – Jack McBrayer

Outstanding Supporting Actor In A Drama Series:
WINNER:
Lost – Michael Emerson
NOMINEES:
Boston Legal – William Shatner
Boston Legal – Christian Clemenson
Breaking Bad – Aaron Paul
Damages – William Hurt
Mad Men – John Slattery

Outstanding Supporting Actor In A Miniseries Or A Movie:
WINNER:
Grey Gardens – Ken Howard
NOMINEES:
Into The Storm – Len Cariou
The Librarian: Curse Of The Judas Chalice – Bob Newhart
Little Dorrit – Tom Courtenay
Little Dorrit – Andy Serkis

Outstanding Supporting Actress In A Comedy Series:
WINNER:
Pushing Daisies – Kristin Chenoweth
NOMINEES:
Saturday Night Live – Amy Poehler
Saturday Night Live – Kristin Wiig
30 Rock – Jane Krakowski
Ugly Betty - Vanessa Williams
Weeds – Elizabeth Perkins
Michael J Fox

Michael J Fox – Best guest actor in a drama series
Outstanding Supporting Actress In A Drama Series:
WINNER:
24 – Cherry Jones
NOMINEES:
Damages – Rose Byrne
Grey’s Anatomy – Sandra Oh
Grey’s Anatomy – Chandra Wilson
In Treatment – Dianne Wiest
In Treatment – Hope Davis

Outstanding Supporting Actress in a Miniseries or Movie:
WINNER:
House Of Saddam – Shohreh Aghdashloo
NOMINEES:
The Courageous Heart Of Irena Sendler (Hallmark Hall Of Fame Presentation) – Marcia Gay Harden
Grey Gardens – Jeanne Tripplehorn
Into The Storm – Janet McTeer
Relative Stranger – Cicely Tyson

Outstanding Guest Actor In A Comedy Series:
WINNER:
Saturday Night Live – Justin Timberlake
NOMINEES:
Desperate Housewives – Beau Bridges
30 Rock – Steve Martin
30 Rock – Jon Hamm
30 Rock – Alan Alda

Outstanding Guest Actor In A Drama Series:
WINNER:
Rescue Me – Michael J Fox
NOMINEES:
CSI: NY – Edward Asner
Damages – Ted Danson
Dexter – Jimmy Smits
ER – Ernest Borgnine

Outstanding Guest Actress In A Comedy Series:
WINNER:
Saturday Night Live – Tina Fey
NOMINEES:
(Spoof) The Big Bang Theory – Christine Baranski
Monk – Gena Rowlands
My Name Is Earl – Betty White
30 Rock – Jennifer Aniston
30 Rock – Elaine Stritch

Outstanding Guest Actress In A Drama Series:
WINNER:
Law & Order: Special Victims Unit – Ellen Burstyn
NOMINEES:
Grey’s Anatomy – Sharon Lawrence
Law & Order: Special Victims Unit – Brenda Blethyn
Law & Order: Special Victims Unit – Carol Burnett
The No. 1 Ladies’ Detective Agency – CCH Pounder

Outstanding Host For A Reality Or Reality-Competition Program:
WINNER:
The Amazing Race – Phil Keoghan
NOMINEES:
American Idol – Ryan Seacrest
Dancing With The Stars – Tom Bergeron
Project Runway – Heidi Klum
Survivor – Jeff Probst
Top Chef – Padma Lakshmi

Outstanding Comedy Series:
WINNER:
30 Rock
NOMINEES:
Entourage
Family Guy
Flight Of The Conchords
How I Met Your Mother

Tina Fey

Tina Fey – Best guest actress for Saturday Night Live
The Office
Weeds

Outstanding Drama Series:
WINNER:
Mad Men
NOMINEES:
Big Love
Breaking Bad
Damages
Dexter
House
Lost

Outstanding Miniseries:
WINNER:
Little Dorritt
NOMINEES:
Generation Kill.

Growing HappinesS: 20 Ways to Beat Monday Blues

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Monday Blues BusterMonday! Monday! Monday!
So full of newness and excitement.
Don’t feel the same way? You’re doing it wrong!
Here are 20 ways to help you beat the Monday Blues:

Procrastinate feeling blue. Is a gloomy cloud forming above your head? Ignore it – you’ll give your attention to it later, not now.

Wear your best clothes or the cheeriest colour from your wardrobe. You’d be surprise how much your clothes could affect the way you feel about yourself.

Early start - bad things happen when you are late, the tension level is high, you are in a rush, you don’t have time for breakfast, when you arrive at your office, people are shoving work into your face. It may seem like a punishment to wake up earlier on Monday but trust me, when you have enough time to organize yourself, you’ll feel like you can conquer the day easier.

Treat yourself in the morning – Sit down and eat. Enjoy your food. Monday is Pancake Breakfast day for me, so I actually look forward to Monday mornings. But eat well - although it’s ok to treat yourself, make sure you eat well. I have a good serving of fruits along with my pancakes. Have enough to drink too - your malaise could be a sign of dehydration.

Have a list of why you’re having the blues – you might be surprised that there will be things on the list that you can easily work on to make your Mondays better. My problem used to be a completing work from last week (very difficult to gain momentum after a weekend break) which brings us to the next point:

Complete as much work possible on Friday – you’ll have less work to worry about on Monday, which lead to the next point:

Have everything laid out the day before – your clothes, files, etc. Saves you a couple of minutes in the morning so that you can concentrate on other, more important things.

Plan your day in small gentle steps. Apply micromovements throughout the day. You can use a GTD system or simply divide your day into of 1/2 – 1 hour chunks with a goal for each time unit.

Talk to a friend – it’s most likely he/she is having the blues too. Keep your conversation short. Remember this is about taking comfort in the fact that you aren’t alone in this, not an hour-long bitchfest about XXX from marketing.

Listen to happy songs – a tune can affect your mood. Let cheery, happy songs be the soundtrack to your Monday.

Dance - just move that body! Jog in place, stretch, do yoga. You’ll feel less lethargic.

Laugh and smile. Recall happy memories or a good joke. If you can’t think of any, do it anyway (fake it till you make it) Some research is saying that even the thought of laughing raises your endorphin (feel-good hormones) levels and a fake laughter provides similar benefits to a real one.

Affirmative statements – Today is a great day. I will complete my report today. Stick positive messages around your monitor and take them seriously.

Choose to feel happy. If you don’t already know, being happy is a choice, so choose happiness!

Buy something new for Monday – it doesn’t have to be big or expensive – a pen, a sketchbook, fancy post-it stickers. Monday is like a birthday for me- I get a present for myself nearly every week. I got myself a sticker for $1 today.

Try something new - you’d be surprise how easy it is to feel energized by doing something you’ve never done before. A new dish, a new song, a new route to work.

Start working. The thing about work is, it’s usually not the work that makes us tired, it’s the thought of starting work that makes us procrastinate and go into a cycle of unproductivity. Quit thinking about starting work and just work instead!

Take short breaks – too much work can be overwhelming and when this happens, it is easy for you to give up. Remember to take short breaks to recharge. If your schedule allows it, you can also take a 10 minute nap after lunch.

Plan something special for Monday night – meet a friend for dinner, rent a DVD. The day will be easier when you have something to look forward to.

Do not get distracted. Youtube, Facebook, personal emails. Once you allow yourself to get distracted you will be sucked into hours of time-wasting activities. If you don’t have the discipline to limit your distraction to 10 minutes, don’t attempt to do it at all. Reading blogs like this is another time-sucker so now that you’ve reach the bottom of the list, why don’t you get working! :)

Drink Of The Week: Ramos Gin Fizz, Sazerac & Pimm’s Cup

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Ramos Gin Fizz

Ramos Gin Fizz

A little history with your buzz…
We don’t know where we’d be without our blender. Well, actually we do — we’d probably be like the bartender Henry Ramos, who invented the Ramos Gin Fizz back in 1888, at his bar in New Orleans. Ramos’ new cocktail needed to be shaken like crazy for five full minutes in order for all the ingredients to be properly blended, and since the poor man didn’t have a blender in his arsenal, he employed a fleet of “shaker boys” to shake up the popular Fizzes. It’s true, without our blender we’d have to employ our neighbor’s kids to blend our margaritas and breakfast smoothies by hand, and that probably wouldn’t go over too well.

The Ramos Gin Fizz became a big hit, and Louisiana Governor Huey P. Long, aka “the Kingfish,” one of America’s original demagogues, could not stand to travel to Fizz-less places. Solution? He brought his own bartender with him wherever he went. In 1935, Long visited the New Yorker Hotel in New York City and brought along New Orleans bartender Sam Guarino to supply the beverages. Guarino taught the bartenders how to mix a Ramos Gin Fizz, and so began the migration of a great cocktail.
Hair-on-your-chest factor: 78/100
You have to have some gumption nowadays to order a drink that contains raw egg whites. Sure, most bartenders use the powdered kind these days, but the notion that the lemon juice in this tasty brunch drink “cooks” the egg whites is just implausible enough to be kind of badass.

You also have to have a respectable bar setup to make this. You may think orange flower water is a frivolous addition, but take our word for it — a Ramos Gin Fizz isn’t the same without it, and one bottle will last you forever (unless you’re like Henry Ramos and make dozens of them every day).

The ladies can have their mimosas, and the guys with brutal hangovers can slump over their Bloody Marys, but if you’re feeling chipper on a Sunday morning, the Ramos Gin Fizz will reward you.

Ingredients:
1 1/2 oz gin
1/2 oz lemon juice
1/2 oz lime juice
1 oz simple syrup (equal parts sugar and water, sugar dissolved completely)
3-4 drops orange flower water
2 oz cream
White of one egg
Soda water to top off

Shake all the ingredients except the soda water in a shaker (or in a blender) without ice for at least a minute, but the longer you go, the better. Add ice and shake another minute, until very cold and frothy. Pour into a Collins glass or large tumbler and top off with soda water.

Sazerac

Sazerac

A little history with your buzz…

The Sazerac was invented by an apothecary named Antoine Amedie Peychaud in New Orleans in the 1830s, as a remedy for a variety of his customers’ ailments. The original formula included a concoction called Peychaud’s Bitters, made mostly of brandy, sugar and water. Over the next two decades, the Sazerac grew in popularity and was officially branded, reportedly becoming the first cocktail invented in America.

The cocktail was named after Sazerac de Forge et Fils, the imported cognac originally used for the cocktail. To accommodate American tastes and because of the difficulty obtaining cognac, the recipe was later altered to replace the French brandy with American rye whisky, and a dash of absinthe was added. Until 2007, absinthe was illegal in the United States, and it’s still hard to find. An anise liqueur like Pernod will do the trick if you can’t find the real thing, but if you want to add polish to your Sazerac, go with the good stuff. Lucid and Kübler are two brands worth noting. A bottle might set you back $50 or $60, but a little goes a long way.

Hair-on-your-chest factor: 7

The Sazerac is a sipping beverage to be sure, and although it’s reddish in color (thanks to the bitters) it’s by no means an effeminate drink. It’s a kick in the pants that New Orleanians have been known to enjoy with lunch.

Ingredients:
1 cube sugar
1½ ounces rye whiskey
¼ ounce absinthe (or anise liqueur)
3 dashes Peychaud’s bitters (available in most liquor stores)
Lemon peel

Instruction
Place the sugar cube in an Old Fashioned glass, add the bitters to it, and crush in the sugar cube. Add the whisky and stir with ice to chill. Pour the absinthe into a second, chilled Old Fashioned glass. Let the liquor coat the glass, then discard the remaining absinthe. Strain the whiskey mixture into the absinthe glass and garnish with the lemon peel.

Pimms Cup

Pimm's Cup

A bit of history with your buzz…

The Pimm’s Cup cocktail came about as an English summer drink. Today, the drink is to Wimbledon what the Mint Julep is to the Kentucky Derby.

The Pimm’s Cup’s primary ingredient – Pimm’s Gin No. 1 — originated in the 1800s at an oyster bar in London’s financial district. (Recession-proof, indeed.) It was there that bartender James Pimm blended a concoction of gin, quinine — the stuff that gives tonic water that bitter taste — and various herbs to make his Pimm’s No. 1 Cup tonic. Story goes that he served his creation as a digestive for his customers, and that the original recipe remains a closely held secret only six people know.

Hair-on-your-chest factor:  55/100

The Pimm’s Cup is a stiff, manly tonic with a twist of sweetness — a guy who loves a Pimm’s is a guy who puts comfortable body temperature above appearance sometimes. The cucumber garnish may seem a little nouveau-cuisine to you, but don’t be put off. Those old-school British bartenders meant business with their liquor. This is definitely a drink you’ll want to parade out for the ladies. It’s cool and refreshing, so it makes for great midsummer sippage.

Ingredients
• 1 1/4 ounces Pimm’s Gin No. 1 Cup
• 3 ounces lemonade
• 7UP
• Cucumber slice

Instruction
Fill a tall, 12-ounce glass with ice and add gin and lemonade. Top with 7UP and garnish with a slice of cucumber.

Sundays on its Best: A Taste of Vietnam

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Whats on Sundays? Terms for food , delights and how to start the week with fresh from the oven topics! Today will be discussing Vietnamese food. From their staple, pho (beef and noodle soup), to spring rolls, Vietnamese cuisine uses a wide variety of herbs like basil, coriander and mint. Raw or stir-fried vegetables are included in almost every meal to accommodate the Buddhist practice of non-killing. Most meals also have a dipping sauce on the side, which is usually fish sauce. And as it is in the Philippines, rice is a staple dish in Vietnam. They also have their share of exotic food like balut (fertilized duck egg), snails and silkworms.

Vietnamese Chorizo Rolls

But in spite of its similarities to Filipino cuisine, Vietnamese food is not as commonly found in the country as, say, Italian. That fact might well be a good selling point for the contemporary Vietnamese cuisine served at Aquaknox on Pasay Road in Makati. “We made it a bit familiar to everyone. We fine-tuned [the menu to suit] the Filipino palate, which appreciates a lot of tastiness compared to herbiness,” says Francis Sison, Aquaknox Sales, Marketing and Events manager.

Aquaknox has a few meat dishes to satisfy meat-loving Pinoys, but their specialty is the seafood, which dominates the menu.

Executive Chef Danny Vu, one of the restaurant’s owners, is also the chef behind Crustacean, which serves contemporary Vietnamese cuisine in San Francisco and Beverly Hills.

The resto’s muted colors and clean lines accentuated with bamboo pieces and cascading water on the walls give it a modern Asian feel. From Tuesdays to Saturdays, Aquaknox transforms into the Aqua Lounge at night where DJs, cocktails, wines and martinis take the spotlight.

On Health: Anti-Prostate Cancer Foods

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Today we  will be discussing about Health.

There’s no hiding the fact that diet heavily influences cancer risk, no matter the type of cancer. However, knowing exactly which foods are beneficial and which ones are harmful can help to shape a diet to achieve its maximum health potential. Considering that prostate cancer is the most common cancer in men, AM has decided to take a long, hard look at anti-prostate cancer foods. Here are a few.

Tomatoes

Active ingredient(s):
Lycopene, an antioxidant

Why eat them?
Lycopene is an antioxidant compound, a carotenoid, which gives tomatoes their color. It is also one of the most widely studied anti-cancer agents. A 2004 review of all the studies to date on tomatoes found a slight reduction in the risk of developing prostate cancer in men with high blood levels of lycopene or with diets rich in tomatoes. In 2007, however, the largest study of its kind disputed these results. Fortunately, further studies of greater quality are currently underway that will hopefully put any doubt to rest. Notwithstanding those results, tomatoes are still chock-full of other beneficial vitamins and antioxidants and, thus, this little red fruit (yes, it’s a fruit) should be a part of any healthy diet.

How should you prepare them?
When it comes to tomatoes, the general rule of thumb is to add heat and fat whenever possible. The more processed the tomatoes and the longer you cook them, the more lycopene is released. Adding fat in the way of oils or meats will also improve lycopene absorption.

Broccoli

Active ingredient(s):
Sulforaphane, among others

Why eat it?
It turns out mom was right: You should really eat your broccoli. In fact, all cruciferous vegetables, like cauliflower, kale and brussels sprouts, appear to offer anti-cancer benefits. Although it’s still not clear which of the many beneficial chemicals or compounds found in broccoli is most responsible for protecting your health, sulforaphane has been the most widely investigated.

Just how does it prevent cancer? Well, sulforaphane might act as an antioxidant itself or it may instead boost detoxifying enzymes in the body. Regardless of how broccoli helps, it’s clear that it is a potent anti-prostate cancer veggie. Some experts even suggest that it’s one of the strongest anti-cancer fighters we have.

How should you prepare it?
When it comes to the method of preparing your broccoli, there is no clear-cut champion, so try to mix things up each time you dine. Eat it raw sometimes, steamed others, and if you boil it, try not to overdo it. Mixing it with other anti-prostate cancer foods such as tomatoes may even enhance anti-cancer effects according to one study done in mice.

Soy

Active ingredient(s):
Isoflavones, such as genistein, daidzein and glycitein

Why eat it?
Soy refers to the soybean, a high-protein legume that comes in many consumer-friendly forms including soy milk, tofu and protein powder. Soy is promoted for its protective properties against many cancers, among them prostate cancer. The effects of soy are thought to be due to isoflavones, compounds that are sometimes called plant estrogens because they mimic the actions of human estrogen, but in plants.

A number of laboratory, animal and population-based studies have shown soy to be an anti-prostate cancer food. However, these results still need to be confirmed in clinical trials. Even without those results, simply using soy as a replacement for meat or dairy may be beneficial on its own, since diets high in meats and dairy tend to increase the risk of certain cancers.

How should you prepare it?
The amount of isoflavone varies by type of soy product and there is generally no rule to help you pick one product over another. Until there is, just keep meals varied and opt for soy products instead of meats and dairy from time to time.

Flax

Active ingredient(s):
Lignans, and alpha linolenic acid (an omega-3 fatty acid)

Why eat it?
Flax is an annual plant used in making the fabric known as linen. Although flaxseed is high in omega-3, it is also rich in lignans, a class of phytoestrogen that may act as an antioxidant. Both flaxseed and its oil have been promoted as anti-cancer substances since the early 1950s, but only recently has any solid evidence emerged.

Unfortunately, only a handful of small studies have investigated the link between flax and prostate cancer in humans, but the results all look promising. Of course, further studies will be needed to definitively close the chapter on flax and cancer, but that shouldn’t keep you from getting your flax fix.

How should you prepare it?
As far as versatility is concerned, flaxseed is certainly the most flexible of the anti-prostate cancer foods. Flaxseed is available in flour, meal and seed form and can be found in multigrain breads, cereals, breakfast bars, and even muffins. Flaxseed oil can also be found in pure liquid form or as capsules.

you are what you eat

Rigorous research takes time and money, and unfortunately, one, if not both, may be lacking. There are simply so many foods and supplements available that researching them all is not only impractical, but likely impossible. With that said, the key to preventing prostate cancer via diet is to eat a well-balanced meal, including all of the above foods, along with a hearty serving of other fruits and vegetables. You can dabble in meats and dairy, but if possible, keep your dabbling to a minimum.

‘Twilight’: 15 New Faces in ‘New Moon’

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From the familiar names (Dakota Fanning, Michael Sheen) to newcomers (Noot Seear, Charlie Bewley), a guide to the fresh blood now lined up for the second movie in the saga
DAKOTA FANNING Role Jane, a powerful member of the Volturi, the Italian coven that enforces vampire law Where youve seen her Um, everywhere? From her breakthrough role opposite Sean Penn in I Am Sam to last years The Secret Life of Bees to Februarys sci-fi thriller Push and animated fantasy Coraline, the former child star has proven her acting chops time and time again.
DAKOTA FANNING Role Jane, a powerful member of the Volturi, the Italian coven that enforces vampire law Where you’ve seen her Um, everywhere? From her breakthrough role opposite Sean Penn in I Am Sam to last year’s The Secret Life of Bees to February’s sci-fi thriller Push and animated fantasy Coraline, the former child star has proven her acting chops time and time again.
CAMERON BRIGHT Role Alec, Janes twin brother Where youve seen him The moon-faced actor starred opposite Nicole Kidman in the supernatural thriller Birth, played Aaron Eckharts son in the black comedy Thank You For Smoking, and had sizable roles in the action flicks Ultraviolet, Running Scared, and X-Men: The Last Stand. He will appear later this year in the JFK/Camelot drama An American Affair.

CAMERON BRIGHT Role Alec, Jane's twin brother Where you've seen him The moon-faced actor starred opposite Nicole Kidman in the supernatural thriller Birth, played Aaron Eckhart's son in the black comedy Thank You For Smoking, and had sizable roles in the action flicks Ultraviolet, Running Scared, and X-Men: The Last Stand. He will appear later this year in the JFK/Camelot drama An American Affair.

MICHAEL SHEEN Role Aro, the mind-reading Volturi leader Where youve seen him In between playing former British Prime Minister Tony Blair (2003s TV movie The Deal, 2006s Oscar-nominated The Queen, and 2011s HBO film The Special Relationship, about Bill Clintons interactions with Blair), the Welsh actor portrayed journalist David Frost in last years Frost/Nixon and wolf-man Lucian in Underworld: Rise of the Lycans.
MICHAEL SHEEN Role Aro, the mind-reading Volturi leader Where you’ve seen him In between playing former British Prime Minister Tony Blair (2003′s TV movie The Deal, 2006′s Oscar-nominated The Queen, and 2011′s HBO film The Special Relationship, about Bill Clinton’s interactions with Blair), the Welsh actor portrayed journalist David Frost in last year’s Frost/Nixon and wolf-man Lucian in Underworld: Rise of the Lycans.
GRAHAM GREENE Role Quileute tribal leader Harry Clearwater, an old friend of Bellas father Where youve seen him The Oneida Indian actor snagged an Oscar nom for his role as Sioux medicine man Kicking Bird in Dances With Wolves. Throughout his wide-ranging career, hes appeared in family-friendly fare (Snow Dogs), action movies (Die Hard: With A Vengeance), and prestige pics (The Green Mile and Transamerica).
GRAHAM GREENE Role Quileute tribal leader Harry Clearwater, an old friend of Bella’s father Where you’ve seen him The Oneida Indian actor snagged an Oscar nom for his role as Sioux medicine man Kicking Bird in Dances With Wolves. Throughout his wide-ranging career, he’s appeared in family-friendly fare (Snow Dogs), action movies (Die Hard: With A Vengeance), and prestige pics (The Green Mile and Transamerica).
JAMIE CAMPBELL BOWER Role Volturi enforcer Caius Where youve seen him The Brit played sailor Anthony Hope, who falls in love with the demon barbers teenage daughter in Tim Burtons Sweeney Todd: The Demon Barber of Fleet Street, and is rumored to play evil wizard Gellert Grindewald in Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows. He also sings in the band the Darling Buds.
JAMIE CAMPBELL BOWER Role Volturi enforcer Caius Where you’ve seen him The Brit played sailor Anthony Hope, who falls in love with the demon barber’s teenage daughter in Tim Burton’s Sweeney Todd: The Demon Barber of Fleet Street, and is rumored to play evil wizard Gellert Grindewald in Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows. He also sings in the band the Darling Buds.
CHRISTOPHER HEYERDAHL Role Volturi guard member Marcus Where youve seen him Frequent guest spots on TV shows like Supernatural, Stargate: Atlantis, and Smallville, and supporting roles in action films like The Chronicles of Riddick, Catwoman, and Blade: Trinity.
CHRISTOPHER HEYERDAHL Role Volturi guard member Marcus Where you’ve seen him Frequent guest spots on TV shows like Supernatural, Stargate: Atlantis, and Smallville, and supporting roles in action films like The Chronicles of Riddick, Catwoman, and Blade: Trinity.
NOOT SEEAR Role Volturi member Heidi, who attracts humans for the Volturi to eat Where youve seen her The Canadian has had small roles in TV and film (Kaya, Head Over Heels), but shes probably more well-known for her extensive modeling career (Armani, Chanel, Yves St. Laurent).
NOOT SEEAR Role Volturi member Heidi, who attracts humans for the Volturi to eat Where you’ve seen her The Canadian has had small roles in TV and film (Kaya, Head Over Heels), but she’s probably more well-known for her extensive modeling career (Armani, Chanel, Yves St. Laurent).
TINSEL KOREY Role Emily, fiancee of wolf pack member Sam Uley Where youve seen her Though the actress/singer/songwriter has been working steadily since a 2004 guest spot on Tru Calling, her most notable credit is a small role in the bank heist thriller The Lookout with Joseph Gordon-Levitt.
TINSEL KOREY Role Emily, fiancee of wolf pack member Sam Uley Where you’ve seen her Though the actress/singer/songwriter has been working steadily since a 2004 guest spot on Tru Calling, her most notable credit is a small role in the bank heist thriller The Lookout with Joseph Gordon-Levitt.
DANIEL CUDMORE Role Violent Volturi enforcer Felix Where youve seen him The Canadian actor played Colossus in X2 and X-Men: The Last Stand.
DANIEL CUDMORE Role Violent Volturi enforcer Felix Where you’ve seen him The Canadian actor played Colossus in X2 and X-Men: The Last Stand.
CHARLIE BEWLEY Role Volturi guard member Demetri Where youve seen him Probably nowhere. The actor has some pretty-lookin headshots, but no résumé to speak of.
CHARLIE BEWLEY Role Volturi guard member Demetri Where you’ve seen him Probably nowhere. The actor has some pretty-lookin’ headshots, but no résumé to speak of.
CHASKE SPENCER (center), BRONSON PELLETIER, ALEX MERAZ (left), KIOWA GORDON (right), TYSON HOUSEMAN Roles Members of the Quileute wolf pack Where youve seen them The La Push gang is comprised of mostly unknown Native American and First Nation actors.

CHASKE SPENCER (center), BRONSON PELLETIER, ALEX MERAZ (left), KIOWA GORDON (right), TYSON HOUSEMAN Roles Members of the Quileute wolf pack Where you've seen them The La Push gang is comprised of mostly unknown Native American and First Nation actors.

Women’s Deepest, Darkest Sexual Fantasies

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What your lady isn’t telling you about, and how to make it happen…

Back when I was 20, the Internet taught me everything I never knew about taboo sex, bizarre fetishes, and obscure fantasies. It all happened when my roommates introduced me to a hand­ful of disturbing (and disturbingly encyclopedic) sites that showed me that some people got off on the idea of playing with excrement, some fantasized about sex with chickens, and still others desperately wanted to be tied up with rubber hoses. It seemed like a twisted and sometimes unsanitary world, but my eyes were opened to the notion that the mind-body connection works in mysterious ways: Even the most depraved thoughts can bring pleasure.

Sexual fantasies, of course, are a normal part of life. In our minds, we can engage in risky behavior without consequences and indulge our inner freak without judgment. But if regular girls like me aren’t exactly stimulated by enema­erotica.com, what are we thinking about while we’re getting down and dirty? To find out, I convinced dozens of women to reveal their most taboo sexual desires. It’s time you learned what she’s really thinking about during sex, why she’s thinking it, and what it says about her. Then you can decide whether to make her wildest fantasies come true—or run!


Her Fantasy: Girl-on-Girl

Congratulations! Turns out your ultimate fantasy is one of hers as well. But before you bring your female assistant home for a threesome, take note that you’re rarely included in this mental picture. One woman described a sce­nario she masturbates to: “I fantasize that I’m at the gym, alone in the steam room with a beautiful woman. Without talking, we let our towels fall and then start kissing, rubbing, and licking each other until we get off.” What’s the allure? Most girls believe another woman would instinctively understand their bodies and know how to bring them to orgasm. “I can so easily make myself come,” says Alyssa,* 26. “I imagine another woman could do the same. Plus, it’s exciting to imagine how soft and different a woman’s body parts would feel versus a man’s.” If it all sounds a little too Sapphic, rest easy; your girlfriend is probably not a closeted lesbian. More likely, her girl-on-girl fantasy is just an expression of her desire to do something taboo but not totally outrageous.

Your reality: To reiterate—bringing another woman home is, generally, a bad idea. (Sorry!) But you can bring her fantasy into the bedroom with dirty talk. “My ex would let me pretend a gorgeous girl was with us during sex,” says Beth, 30. “I’d tell him what I imagined myself doing to her or what she was doing to me. Just verbalizing it made me come in seconds.”

Kink alert: She’s adventurous but not scarily over-the-top. What do you want—some kind of sploshing freak?

Her Fantasy: Sex With a Stranger

You may stroll down the street and imagine screwing every girl you see, but for women this fantasy feels much more illicit. Whereas you’re expected to be a horn-dog, we’re supposed to be chaste and prim. But we don’t always want to be. “At restaurants, I always fantasize about having a quickie in the bathroom with the best-looking waiter,” says Sasha, 29. “I love the notion of spontaneity combined with the idea that it’s someone I’ll never see again. It seems like the freedom to be as dirty as you want.” The stranger-sex fantasy is rarely about tender lovemaking. In the time it takes a woman to glance at a passerby, she envisions hard-and-fast sex, no names exchanged, him pressing her against a wall in an alley. Theoretically, it’s the perfect scenario: a quick no-strings orgasm, and no worrying whether we’re skanks.

Your reality: The easiest way to approximate this fantasy is role-play. “I’ve heard about couples who pick a meeting place and then act like it’s the first time they’ve met,” says Sasha. “They use fake names, maybe the woman even wears a wig or a disguise. I’d be really into it.”

Kink alert: She’s either got a very healthy appetite for sex or a bad case of ADD.


Her Fantasy: Submission
While many women love to take control in bed, just as many, or more, are enticed by the idea of being rendered completely powerless. “I envision a guy tying me up and having his way with me,” says Laura, 25. “It’s not a violent thing; I have no desire to have a man force himself on me. It’s about succumbing to pleasure.” In fact, total submission is one of the most common female fantasies. “Many women are raised to think sex is wrong, so enjoying it can cause a lot of guilt,” explains Drew Ramsey, Ph.D., a psychiatrist at Columbia University Medical Center.
“This way, it’s not something the woman is doing, but something that’s being done to her.”
Erica, 26, likes to picture her boyfriend tying her up and even using a blindfold or a gag. “I enjoy the thought of him using my body for his pleasure,” she says. “I imagine being helpless and unable to move while he goes from my mouth to my breasts to wherever.”

Your reality: Get out some neckties and go to town, big guy! Just keep things from getting too rough—being tied up understandably makes some women feel anxious. To make her feel secure, establish an unambiguous “safe word” that she can call out if she feels uncomfortable: “fork;” “thunder;” “Hey, asshole, get off me.


Kink alert: Sure, she’s let­ting you use her. But if she’s tied up, aren’t you the one doing all of the work?

Her Fantasy: Sex for Show

Even the most timid girl dreams of being a sex star at some point. The idea of having an audience during sex provides a huge ego boost. “Fundamentally, this fantasy is about exhibitionism,” says Ramsey. “There’s a sense of power that can be derived from seducing someone at a distance.” Jaycee, 28, has a recurring fantasy about her boyfriend secretly hiding his two best friends in the closet to watch the couple have sex: “I think about them being so turned on they open the door to get a better view. ” Kristin, 26, even leaves the curtains open while she masturbates to indulge her fantasy. “I like to picture some guy right outside, watching me and beating off. Of course, if there really were a guy outside my window, I’d die of a heart attack.”

Your reality: The easiest way to simulate being watched is to substitute a camera lens for the human eye. Just be sure to keep the footage well hidden (labeling it “Mindy’s Bat Mitzvah ’07” will ensure nosy house-sitters don’t get a free show). “I wanted the feeling of being watched, so I asked my boyfriend to tape me,” says Maggie, 25. “When we watched it, I got so turned on we had to do it again right then.”

Kink alert: Very hot. But look out for a familiar face next time you’re on YouPorn.


Her Fantasy: Sex with Multiple Men

That is, multiple men at once, not multiple men over a lifetime—sorry, pal. While you might translate this fantasy to mean your girlfriend is, well, kind of a slut, you’d be missing the mark entirely. “This fantasy is really about being adored,” says Ramsey. “In this scenario, the woman is a sexual idol.” Chelsea, 31, explains: “The thought of gangbangs turns me on because I love the idea of being so desirable that five guys are salivating over me. Half the time I’m having sex with my boyfriend, I close my eyes and imagine there are four other well-endowed men waiting in line.” Alison, 27, has a recurring vision of an encounter in the woods with a group of men. “They lean me up against a tree and start peeling off my clothes. Then one of them takes me from behind while the others grab my breasts, massage my clit, and undress. For me, the nastier the fantasy, the better.”

Your reality: Presumably, you’re not too interested in letting a group of men have at your girlfriend. Her fantasy of maximum stimulation can be replicated, however, with the help of a few sex toys. “My husband and I always use a vibrator or butt plug during sex,” admits Angela, 28. “They double or even triple the pleasure—just like having multiple partners would.”

Kink alert: She’s a little bonkers, but the sex is worth it—for a while.


Her Fantasy: Sex on the Farm

No, we’re not talking about a roll in the hay with a cowboy. We’re talking about sex with animals. Before you freak out—rest assured that most women who have this thought cross their minds don’t actually want to bone Rover. According to Ramsey, bestiality fantasies are rooted in the idea of having sex with an object, where the emotions are one-sided. “People who have tremendous sexual drives sometimes feel other humans can’t tolerate their intensity,” he explains, “so they turn to the next best thing—animals.” Sara, 30, confesses: “I used to have a fantasy about a dog licking me down there. I know it sounds creepy, but I just thought its long tongue would feel way better than a human tongue.” Um…yeah…of course.

Your reality: If you’re willing to bring a live animal into your bedroom to satisfy your girlfriend, you should both seek intensive therapy. That said, you could try role-playing—Woof!—or dressing up as a furry. Or you could just buy her a copy of Chicken Soup for the Horse Lover’s Soul and give her a few moments of privacy.

Kink alert: Off the charts. Time to call the ASPCA.

Stupid Fun: 9 Public Restroom Personalities

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by Richard McVey

9. THE READER

He’s not about the quick in and out of doing his bathroom business. He likes to hunker down with the newspaper, magazine and/or (heaven help us) a good book. For him, it’s the relaxing toilet ride that makes the perfect spot to enjoy the written word. And yes, these are same periodicals that make their way back to the lunch room.

8. THE GRUNTER

Oh, you know him. He’s in the stall next to you bellowing like he’s about to give birth to a calf. Each grunt is preceded by short gasps for air, and a quick fart.  And you know the exact second he’s done because the big finale is punctuated with a sigh of relief.

7. THE WORKER

Mr. Multitasker wouldn’t dream of not answering his phone, even if he’s draining the lizard, or worse, dropping the kids off at the pool. He often tries to disguise his location by mentioning “I’m away from my desk right now,” but the stall echoes and sounds of background flushing are unmistakable.

6. THE FRIENDLY NEIGHBOR

He figures what better time to make friends and be chatty than when you’re in the restroom. He often intros with “Some weather were having,” “How are you doing?” or “Wheeew, sorry about that, I had Mexican last night.” No matter how short your response, he keeps—with his dick in his hand—talking to you.

5. THE RIM SHAKER

He’s the guy in the stall next to you going one on one with a dingleberry. His ass is rocking back and forth/hopping up and down on the seat in a vain attempt to drop that last hanger-on. The Friendly Neighbor will often root him on. “Stick with it. It’ll go!”

4. THE PHOBIAST

He’s spraying Lysol, slathering in hand sanitizer and laying down railroad track-sized strips of toilet paper to make sure his ass does not come in contact with any previous asses. After washing up, he must use paper towels to open the door.

3, THE SHOWERER

With his bathroom kit spread out at the sink, he looks like his girlfriend has booted him from the apartment. He’s brushing his teeth, splashing water on his face, combing his hair, and frequently changes clothes.

2. THE GAWKER

It’s subtle, but he’s checking out your package at the urinal.

1. THE FIRE HOSE

He’s not using the urinal. Instead he marches into the stall and whips it out without so much of a thought of lifting the lid. With the accuracy of a 4-year-old, he sprays the seat, hoses the backstop, and finishes by shaking it on the floor.

Robert Pattinson And Kristen Stewart’s Secret Shopping ‘Date’

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The rumoured couple check out vintage fashions together…

Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart emerged from their ‘paparazzi prison’ to do a spot of clothes shopping in Vancouver last week.

While the Twilight co-stars – and rumoured couple – managed to dodge photographers, they didn’t escape the notice of eagle-eyed fans as they trawled the rails at Retro Rock Vintage Clothing.

The pair even posed for pictures during their shopping trip, reports robsessedpattinson.com, who have photographic evidence of the thrift store visit.


Rob and Kristen pose for pictures at Retro Rock Vintage Clothing with fans who’d apparently rather remain anonymous (courtesy of robsessedpattinson.com)

Fellow vampire Kellan Lutz recently spoke out about the impact of the heartthrob’s paparazzi following on the cast’s daily routine.

Refering to the current Eclipse shoot, he said: “It’s going great. We all love Vancouver. It’s just that there’s just so many paparazzi everywhere.

“We’ve been moving around to new places like every two weeks. Especially for Rob – we feel bad for him. Like, we go out to cast dinners and, whenever Rob’s shooting, that’s when we can have free time because usually that’s when everyone is trying to shoot Rob or Kristen.

“So then we can actually be free to walk around the city and shop and go out to eat. You know, when we want to do cast dinners, it’s tough because you can’t just chill.”

It’s great to see that Rob and Kristen get to bust out of that prison once in a while!

Rob and Kristen in pictures

Contemplating today’s Gospel

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Today’s Gospel

Liturgic day: Saturday 24th in Ordinary Time

Gospel text (Lc 8:4-15): As a great crowd gathered and people came to him from every town, Jesus began teaching them through stories, or parables, «The sower went out to sow the seed. And as he sowed, some of the grain fell along the way, was trodden on and the birds of the sky ate it up. Some fell on rocky ground, and no sooner had it come up than it withered, because it had no water. Some fell among thorns; the thorns grew up with the seed and choked it. But some fell on good soil and grew, producing fruit —a hundred times as much». And Jesus cried out, «Listen then, if you have ears to hear!».

The disciples asked him, «What does this story mean?». And Jesus answered, «You have been granted to know the mystery of the kingdom of God. But to others it is given in the form of stories, or parables, so that seeing they may not perceive and hearing they may not understand.

»Now, this is the point of the parable: The seed is the word of God. Those along the wayside are people who hear it, but immediately the devil comes and takes the word from their minds, for he doesn’t want them to believe and be saved. Those on the rocky ground are people who receive the word with joy, but they have no root; they believe for a while and give way in time of trial. Among the thorns are people who hear the word but as they go their way, are choked by worries, riches, and the pleasures of life; they bring no fruit to maturity. The good soil, instead, are people who receive the word and keep it in a gentle and generous mind, and persevering patiently, they bear fruit.

Comment: Fr. Fernando PERALES i Madueño (Terrassa, Barcelona, Spain)

The good soil are people who, persevering patiently, they bear fruit

Today, Jesus tells us about the sower that «went out to sow the seed» (Lk 8:5) and that seed was nothing else but the «the Word of God». But «the thorns grew up (…) and choked it» (Lk 8:7).

Thorns, we have many. «Among the thorns are people who hear the word but as they go their way, are choked by worries, riches, and the pleasures of life; they bring no fruit to maturity» (Lk 8:14).

—My Lord, Am I to blame for having worries? I wish I would not have any, but they keep on coming to me from everywhere! I do not see why they should deprive me from your Word, if they are not sin, vice or defect.

—Because you forget that I am your Father and you are being enslaved by a to-morrow you do not even know whether you will ever reach!

«If we would learn to live by trusting more in the Divine Providence, assured —with a strong faith!— of its daily protection that never fails us, how many worries and fears should not we avoid! All those chimaeras, that in Jesus’ words are normal to the pagan world, to the worldly men, would simply disappear (cf. Lk 12:30), of the persons who are missing a supernatural feeling (…). St. Josemaria tells us: «I would like to engrave in your forehead with fire that we have all the reasons to walk with optimism through this world, with our soul getting rid of some many things that look absolutely necessary, for your Father knows what you actually need! (cf. Lk 12:30), and he shall provide».

David said: «Cast your care upon the Lord, and He shall sustain you» (Ps 54:23). This is what St. Joseph did during the great prove: he pondered, he consulted, he prayed, he resolved and left everything in the hands of God. When the Angel arrived, he did not dare to wake him up and spoke to him in his dreams.

Anyway, «I must have no other concern but your Glory…, in short, your Love» (St. Josemaria).

Drink Of The Week: Singapore Sling

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A little history with your buzz…
The Singapore Sling is one of those cocktails everyone’s heard of but nobody’s actually tasted. It was first mixed at the Raffles Hotel in Singapore by a bartender by the name of Mr. Ngiam Tong Boon sometime between 1910 and 1915. You can still buy a Singapore Sling at the Raffles, although it’s pricey and the recipe has been doctored over the years to appeal to changing tastes. There’s plenty of room for argument about what makes an authentic Singapore Sling, but one element that everyone agrees on is the inclusion of a splash of Benedictine, a cognac-based herbal liqueur from France.

Benedictine is a great liquor cabinet investment — it’s not cheap, but it will take you years to drain a bottle of it and every time someone sees it in there among the other bottles, your stock will go up. The Singapore Sling was popular during the early twentieth century, and was referenced in Tom Waits’ eerie love song “Shore Leave” from 1983, about a sailor getting into trouble on while on shore leave and thinking about his girlfriend back home in Illinois.
Hair-on-your-chest factor: 66/100
We’re not gonna lie to you: Singapore Slings started out as women’s drinks, because they tended to include grenadine, which colored the cocktail pink. In our version, we leave out the grenadine (seriously — it’s for making Shirley Temples for your niece, not pouring into your own highball glass), and if you take the time to listen to the Tom Waits song we mentioned above, you’ll find that there’s nothing girly about a Singapore Sling.

Ingredients:
1 1/2 oz gin
1/2 oz Cointreau Triple Sec
Generous splash of Benedictine liqueur
4 oz pineapple juice
1/2 oz lime juice
1 dash Angostura bitters

Shake with ice. Strain into an ice-filled Collins or highball glass.

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